•  You don’t want to spend money on an eBook on texting women
• You don’t understand the principles behind the keylock sequence

For those who refuse to spend money on the eBook, all I can say is this: how much is getting the girl you like out on a date worth to you? Sure, you can convince yourself you don’t need a “guide” to explain how to text women, yet do you really want to chance it with a girl you really like? If that really worth saving a few bucks?

So, seriously, if you haven’t checked out Magnetic yet, click here to learn more.

Now, for those who don’t fully understand the keylock sequence, or who simply want to learn more about it before taking the plunge and purchasing Magnetic, I dedicate this article to you.

So let’s get right into it…

 The Secret Formula for Texting

If you’re still reading, you’ve probably wondered, “How do I text a girl? I want to ask her out, but don’t know the right way to do it…” Trust me, we’ve all been there. Probably you’re wondering:

• Should I begin by texting her something sweet like, “It was fun talking to you…get home safe…”?
• Should I just go for it in the first text and ask her out?
• Should I send something flirty or even tease her?
• Should I avoid text altogether and just call her?

These are very common questions and I want to address all of them. And, in order to do that, I need to clarify something:

The invention of the smartphone has killed off the traditional way of asking women out.

This point is so important, I’m going to state it again: The invention of the smartphone has killed off the traditional way of asking women out. Seriously. Write it on the back of your hand if you have to.

That’s because trying to set up women the “traditional” way is like trying to write a term paper on typewriter. It’s just stupid, a waste of time, and—ultimately—very ineffective.

Instead, embrace technology and use the smartphone to your advantage. Texting women in the “modern era” means understanding how to use text to maximize your success with women.

So, for starters, avoid ever sending texts that serve no purpose other than showing you’re “nice” or “polite.” Texts like “hello,” “what’s up,” “hope you got home safe,” or even “It’s Rick” are pointless and a total waste of time.

Keep in mind: texting women isn’t the same as meeting them face-to-face…so you don’t need to say hi or begin a “formal” conversation. Instead, cut right to the chase.

And to “cut right to the chase” I mean BEGIN FLIRTING IMMEDIATELY!

Don’t beat around the bush. Don’t act coy. Don’t waste time and texts with nonsense. Instead, your first text should get her to smile. I don’t want to write out specific texts because I’ve already done that here and here. However, use this as the “first text test”:

If you can get her to laugh or smile with your first text, you’re 1/3 of the way there.

Really, all your first text should do is get a smile or a giggle out of your girl, and you’re already 33% successful in setting up a date with her.

Next, you need to make some sort of CONNECTION. See, most guys overlook this crucial “texting ingredient” because they’re too caught up in looking cool or flirting too much.

No matter what, if this girl is going to meet up with you, she needs to feel you connect in SOME way, shape, or form. Therefore, you need to remind her of a common interest, inside joke, or even a quality about her that you appreciate.

The more genuine your “connection text” is, the better. In fact, the “second text test” is:

If you can get her to say “aww” or “that’s sweet” with your second text, you’re 2/3 of the way there.

Now keep in mind: in a perfect world, this would only take 1 text. However, we all know NOTHING is perfect. Sometimes it will take you more than 1 text to get her smiling or get her to moan, “aww.” It can sometimes take 4-5 texts to do so. And that’s perfectly fine. However…

Once you get the response you’re looking for, move onto the next text! So for example, once you get her smiling, don’t keep sending flirty emotional texts. Instead, move onto a connection text. And, likewise, once you establish a connection, don’t keep trying to make more of a connection. Instead move onto…

The final text: the proposed meet up text. Not only is this the most important text, it’s also the easiest. All you need to do now is “pull the trigger” and propose a date. For your best chance of success, keep it simple. We’ve often said the “best text of all time” is simply: “Drinks? Later?” It’s simply, to-the-point, and accomplishes the third and most crucial step, which is getting a meet up.

We’ve declared this 3-step series of text “the keylock sequence” because you can think of it as “putting a key into a lock (first text), turning it (second text), and opening a door (third text) to a fun and excited girl who can’t wait to meet up with you for a date.”

So, do yourself a favor, and stop ruining great opportunities for dates and relationships by neglecting your texting skills. Master “phone game” once and for all by grabbing your copy of Magnetic Messaging.

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In most of my products and articles, I rarely go into much depth about how to kiss a girl. In my opinion, sexual escalation (like kissing) is more of an outgrowth of sexual tension. In The 4 Elements of Game I define kissing as a “release” behavior—something that releases the tension created when you’re interacting with a woman in an attractive, masculine way.

However, I know some guys out there like a more thorough and detailed explanation of how to kiss a girl. (This morning my inbox was flooded with the subject line “How To Kiss A Girl?”). Thus, I want to take this opportunity to further explain what I know about how to kiss a girl.

Before you read this article, you may want to check out the premier on kissing babes I wrote for TSB a few years back. Click on the link to check it out, How To Kiss A Girl.

How To Kiss A Girl: It’s All About The Pre-Game

Most guys ask a question about kissing a girl, and think I’m going to give them an answer that they can apply a few seconds before the kiss and have it magically go down. In reality, a good kiss is 95% preparation and only 5% execution (totally made up statistics).

In other words, the determining factor of whether or not a girl deems your kiss “hot or not” is established in the moments leading up to the kiss. The shortest timeline for this “pre-game” would be about 2-5 minutes. However, in a typical date situation, the moments leading up to a kiss can span as long as 45 minutes to an hour.

Just a quick word to all the guys who enjoy going for fast make-outs (otherwise known as “flash game”): While it may make you feel cool to be able to get instant kisses from girls you just met (and I’m certainly not claiming I’m somehow above this), kissing a girl too soon or rushing the build-up to a kiss is not a good long-term strategy for building a solid connection with a woman.

While kissing babes is awesome, I personally enjoy the build-up to a kiss better, anyway. And certainly women would concur. No woman wants to feel like she’s a tongue receptacle for some aggressive horn-ball; instead, she wants a guy who understands how to create, maintain, and amplify sexual tension.

Thus, the bulk of this tutorial will center on the crucial aspects of the pre-game. Beginning with the most important aspect of the kiss: isolated discretion.

How To Kiss A Girl Step 1: Isolated Discretion

I know it sounds obvious that you need to be “isolated” with a girl to kiss her, but it’s still important to point out. A memorable kiss is a moment shared between you and a girl, and that’s it. Unless you’re “kissing the bride” at your wedding, you should really remain cognizant of the situation you and a girl are in.

Case-in-point: the other weekend I was chatting with a girl who I felt great chemistry with. We’d met because my friend began talking to her friend, and we naturally just gravitated to each other. Now, even though I wanted to kiss her (and the feeling seemed to be mutual), I restrained myself for an important reason: no discretion.

Personally, I don’t want a girl to think I’m some sex-starved horn-ball who will jump at any opportunity to sexually escalate (and I’m sure you agree). While I emphasize the importance of sexual escalation in all my articles and advice, the importance of being a sexually satisfied guy who’s in control of his emotions is MORE important than simply having the guts to go for a kiss.

So, if you’re planning a great kiss, the first step is to wait until you’re in a situation that is somewhat discrete. I’m not saying that you necessarily need to be one-on-one, beyond closed doors before going for the kiss. However, do respect her reputation and comfort levels. Most girls don’t feel comfortable engaging in public displays of affection (PDA), so don’t ruin your first kiss before it starts.

Make sure you have some privacy, and that it’s a personal moment between you and a girl before even considering a girl. This could be as simple as moving her 20 feet away from the crowd, or as elaborate as planning a date around taking her to a special “spot” where you know you’ll have some one-on-one time.

How To Kiss A Girl Step 2: Build Tension

As we already know, a great kiss doesn’t just appear out of thin air. Instead, it’s an outgrowth of the moments leading up to the kiss, as Josh Pellicer explains in The Tao of Badass. Once you and a girl have some “isolated discretion,” it’s important you don’t just lunge into her and expect a kiss. You first need to build sexual tension.

If you’re unfamiliar with sexual tension, then I’d highly recommend you browse the archives of this blog or my column on TSB Magazine (or read my book, The 4 Elements of Game). Creating sexual tension is crucial for an enjoyable kiss.

Often the fastest and easiest way to create sexual tension is by giving a very direct, very bold compliment. Saying something like, “Wow, I wish you hadn’t worn this dress out tonight because it looks amazing on you, and now I can hardly think straight” is a perfect example. Why?

First off, the compliment is good-humored but also very bold. You’re complimenting her, but you’re also sort of “blaming” her for looking too good. This is so much than simply saying, “You look beautiful tonight” before it amplifies the tension of the compliment.

Using a compliment like that will electrify the moment, setting the stage for the kiss.

How To Kiss A Girl Step 3: Shameless Execution

Once you feel that “spark” of tension, it’s time to pull the trigger and go for the kiss. While that advice may sound very simply, it’s incredibly hard for most guys to follow. This is because most guys want to look for “signs” or “signals” that a girl wants to be kissed. Or worse, some guys even wait for a girl to kiss them (hardly ever happens!).

If you want to be a good kisser, you need to a high-stakes player. Don’t ask a woman if she wants to be kissed. Don’t drive yourself crazy looking for the “perfect signal.” Don’t even make the mistake of hesitating. Instead, just lean in and kiss her.

In other words: execute shamelessly.

Now, a girl may reject your first attempt at going for a kiss—this is perfectly fine. In all likelihood, it probably has nothing to do with you. So don’t feel rejected! Just respect her comfort levels, and go back into being normal. A immutable rule of kissing is this: if you attempt to kiss a girl, but she doesn’t kiss you back, BUT she’s still talking to you = she wants to kiss you but just needs more time.

In fact, if you really want a “signal” to know whether or not a woman is interested in you or wants to be kissed by you, simply go for the kiss and see what happens. If she’s still standing in front of you, you passed! You wants to be kissed! (Even if she didn’t kiss you right then and there.)

So there you have it: how to kiss a girl in 3 simple stages. Don’t over-think it. Don’t over-complicate it. Have confidence in yourself and pucker up.

If you’ve enjoyed my posts on phone and text game on this blog and TSB, then you’ll probably get a lot out of the book. I approached the book as an explanation of attractive communication between men and women, which I know is a major stumbling block for most guys.

So, if you’ve ever taken a girl’s phone number, and were at a loss for what to text her, check out Magnetic Messaging by clicking on the link below:

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What I have to say about texting will do more than just rock your thumbs…it will change your life.

But to discuss something of such magnitude, I first need to explain my stance on kino…

…or lack thereof.

It all goes back to the dark ages of meeting and dating women. Back when wild packs of peacocked pickup gurus (P.U.G.s) roamed the earth. These gentlemen had a word for human touch.

They called it…

“Kino.”

The word came to symbolize the gap between the sexes…the cure-all for our dating woes.

Want to generate attraction? More kino.

Stuck in the friend-zone? More kino.

Cure cancer? More kino.

You get the point. Guys over-emphasized the effectiveness of touch, believing that if they could just get their hands on more women that they would…well…get their hands on more women.

Now, don’t get me wrong: there’s nothing wrong with putting your hands on hot babes!

But to think of “kino” as a tactic is so…so…creepy!

It would be like showing up to a gang-bang wearing a submarine yellow biohazard suit.

It’s weird.

C’mon guys! This is MEETING, ATTRACTING, and DATING hot women! This isn’t a 7^th grade science fair project!

Kino sounds like something I’d need safety goggles to try…and definitely NOT something that gets me closer to a gorgeous, passionate woman.

Not ONCE since I began enjoying success with women have I ever thought I was “applying kino” when touching some hot babe. No way! I’m simply enjoying myself, hands-first.

I know it may sound like I’m getting a bit “touchy” over such a small word, but it’s more than “just a word.”

It’s an attitude.

Kino doesn’t sound FUN.

It sounds like WORK.

Like something that requires a graphing calculator.

I don’t do “kino” because I like to make meeting women FUN. And EXCITING. And AWESOME.

This attitude applies to more than just “kino”…it should apply to EVERY aspect of the way you communicate with beautiful women.

How you “open.”

How you vibe.

How you get physical.

Probably one of the BIGGEST gaps in most guys’ “game” is their inability to keep the FUN communication going over the course of an interaction.

And this is especially true when guys pick up the phone to text or call a woman.

If you’ve ever encountered a “flakey” girl, you know I’m probably talking to you.

When you’re using your phone to follow-up with a girl, or ask a girl out on a date, or even check-in with your girlfriend, it should put a SMILE on your face.

I remember back when I worked in a soul-destroying office job as an editor of science magazines, the HIGHLIGHT of my day was when I whipped out my phone to text the babes I’d met over the weekend.

I made it fun by creating my own method for texting women that was more than just enjoyable…it was also EXTREMELY effective.

(If you have ANY experience with women, you obviously know that when you’re having fun, she’s having fun, and fun is attractive… So it’s not exactly hard to figure out why this works so astonishingly well.)

For the last year or so, I’ve been teaching tidbits of my texting method to live program students as well as writing the occasional TSB article or blog post on how to text girls. I’ve received tons of feedback from guys who said my tips helped them recover girls they previously thought it was “over” with.

So you know what I had to do…

I had to do what I do best: turn what I know into a book.

Back in September, I raided my old iPhone 3G (R.I.P.) and gleaned my best texts, insights, and ideas. I then weaved those concepts into a bible for texting women…

I proudly present: MAGNETIC MESSAGING.

Even if you have no interest in a book on texting women, I’d highly recommend watching the video below. It contains some really interesting “big idea” concepts on attraction and women:

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Enjoy!

P.S. This video is pretty much the exact opposite of kino:

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P.S. If you haven’t clicked that link, you probably use the word “kino” in a non-ironic way. (Which will only lead to kinoing yourself…)

But since these posts are fun to put together, and I think they teach good fundamentals for texting and communicating with women, I decided to follow up last year’s post with another 10 texts, straight from my iPhone…

10.) Know Any?

A big part of texting girls is learning how to give a compliment without coming off like ass-kissing chump. Saying flattering things—but saying them in interesting ways—is the best way to work a phone number into a date. This text is a perfect example of that. By playfully inviting a girl to a movie, but calling her “cute” and “nerdy,” and then flirtatiously negating the invitation by adding, “Know any?” is a great way to keep things smoldering (especially with cute, nerdy chicks).

9.) The Badass

One of the worst things a guy can do when texting girls is become too predictable. If you find yourself going back-and-forth with women on text (which you shouldn’t, per my cardinal rule of texting from The 4 Elements of Game), you should absolutely make sure you don’t become boring, predictable guy. If a girl asks what you’re doing, or how you plan on spending your vacation, giving a serious answer will usually just cause a lull. Therefore, answering with something totally ridiculous (like The Badass) will re-spark the excitement.

8.) Diseased Romantic

Telling girls you think they’re hot, and that you’re interested in them sexually, is how you stay out of the friend zone. Unfortunately it’s also how to be a major creep-master. Therefore, there’s certainly an “art” to expressing sexual interest. As I detail in The 4 Elements, effective sexual tension is all about balancing drive (sexual interest) with inspiration (humor and personality). This text brings the sexual interest while also keeping it humorous. And somewhat gross.

7.) Vanity Fair

Let’s face it: humans are vain creatures. Whenever people talk about us, we want to hear about it. So why not use that human foible to your advantage? By “baiting” a woman by saying something reminded you of her, and then telling her you’ll explain over some wine, you set up a nice little date for yourself.

6.) The Morning After Text

Sometimes the most important text you send is the first text. For a long time I struggled with this, either texting too much or too little, too serious or too bizarre. Finally I stumbled on a text that always seems to get a good response, without making it seem like I’m trying too hard. This text says it all: cougars, wildness, the place where you met, your name, and even one of those little emoticons. This text rarely doesn’t get a response—even from girls who might not even remember you.

5.) First Impressions

Whenever you’re sending a text, you might as well send something that will work for you later. Therefore, if I get a date venue before a girl, I don’t just text, “Here”. I try to spice things and text something we can immediately joke about when she shows up. By describing myself in a way so obviously not me, I set up a flirty dynamic before the date even begins. It’s a great way to start a night.

4.) Traditional Date

As I said before, one the best texting skills a man can learn is the ability to give compliments without coming off weird or creepy. Most guys tell girls they’re hot or beautiful or some permutation of the two. It’s much better, however, to complement a girl in tandem—or, in other words, make a cocky statement about yourself while also giving her a complement. My favorite way to do this is by commenting on how great your future children will be. When you tell her you want to have Zoolander babies with her, you’re not only telling her she’s hot and you’re hot, but you’re also implying you’re going to have sex—all while you keep it funny. Win, win, win.

3.) Traditional Date

These days, people really over-think dating. If you think dating is complicated for a dude, it’s equally complicated for women. Therefore, do everyone a favor and suggest something old fashioned…like a drink. Keeping these simple is not only a great text strategy—it’s also a great way to procure a date.

2.) Music Assistant

Sometimes you just need a text to keep the ball in the air. When I used to work in an office, I’d sit in my cubicle texting babes all day. Usually I’d just use text to set up meet ups or manage girls I was seeing, but occasionally I’d just send a text to keep things alive with girls I was working on. Asking a girl for a song recommendation is a great way to get to know her while not asking boring interview-style questions like, “What kind of music do you like?” Get a gangsta recommendation from a hot girl in your phone…like right now.

1.) Jaws

Sometimes your best bet when texting is to go with the absurd. These sorts of texts are especially good when you’re getting lackluster responses or no responses at all. While it’s a hit-or-miss move, if a girl has a special place in her heart for sharks, you just may be able to rekindle things with the Jaws text.

(Alternative Jaws text: “Shark’s over. It’s safe. What are you doing later?”)

And so there you have it: 10 More of the Best Texts to Send Hot Girls…OF ALL TIME!

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10. Your hope—While “hoping” a nice girl will come along or “hoping” that you will one day enjoy success with women may sound nice, it’s really just paralyzing you from taking action TODAY. The idea of “hope” always happens in the future…maybe tomorrow, or maybe the next day, or perhaps the day after that. But guess what: if you’re not taking action TODAY as in RIGHT NOW, then you’re letting “hope” stop you from enjoying success with women. Therefore, this is the final point in this “top 10” because even this “top 10” list is keeping you living in HOPE. Step up and live in REALITY, today…as in RIGHT NOW.

Today I want to give you my 10 best texts…right out of my iPhone.

Here are my top 10 text messages…of ALL TIME. Get thumbs your ready! (Note: If you’re wondering why I used images rather than write out the texts, it’s because this way they won’t come up in a Google search. You can feel free to use these texts without fear of “getting caught!”)

10.) The Romantic Commando

This is a great text to send to a girl you’re seeing, or have in a “holding pattern” (i.e., a girl you’re trying to meet up with, but logistics are screwing you over). It’s sweet, romantic, but also manly as Chuck Norris in a vat of testosterone. Be Prince Charming, but keep your manly dignity.

9.) The Scooter-Perv Siting

I must confess, this text was inspired by a Tweet I wrote. (See, this is why it pays to follow us on Twitter!) A great text to send to warm up any girl you’re trying to meet up with. It’s random, not try-hard, and hilarious.

8.) Don’t Hate

Sometimes minimalism pays. You don’t want to be the guy composing DBQ essays on text, making it offensively obvious you’re trying to impress her. Instead, ping her objections with 2 simple words: “Don’t hate.” This text can fit almost any situation and always addresses the issue at hand: her not hating on you.

7.) The Aristocrat

I borrowed this text from someone’s blog, but can’t remember who (if it was your blog, please let me know and I’ll give you a shout out.) Anyway, this is pure genius. Like the “Romantic Commando” it allows you to be “sweet and caring” while also being “awesome and fucking awesome.” The obvious satire counterbalances the strong message. Excellent for dispelling a “player vibe.”

6.) Ladies’ Night

One of the best way to reduce your flake rate is by pretending you have the most awesome shit going on in your life…ever. A perfect way to do that on text (without coming across like a complete douche) is by pairing whatever activity you plan on doing with whatever night you plan on doing it, and then designating it “__(day of the week)__ is _(activity)__ night.” So, for example, if you want to take her out for sushi on a Wednesday, you’d text, “Wednesday is sushi night…bring your own chopsticks!” or something like that.

5.) The Junior Spesh
Mind Command

I can’t explain why this works, but you just have to trust me. Our friend Chris (a.k.a., Junior Spesh), after years of living a self-proclaimed “international playboy” lifestyle, stumbled on a text whose effectiveness is almost fabled. For whatever reason, adding the phrase “Will be fun– let me know :]” to the end of your text almost always gets a response…even from the flakiest, most non-responsive girl. Don’t take my word for it, try it. Like, right now.

4.) Scrolling Nostalgia

If you have numbers in your phone from girls you met months ago, but who flaked on you, trying the old “scrolling nostalgia” trick may finally trigger your long-awaited reunion. The premise is pretty self-explanatory, just type, hit send, and hope for the best. Nothing to lose and everything to gain.

3.) If by X, you mean Y then yes.

This text is the best way to ping any stupid comment or insult a girl might throw your way. You simply answer with an agreement (i.e., “If by (insult)“) and then say something sexual or absurd (i.e., “You mean (awesome)“). So it’s: “If by X, you mean Y.” This is an excellent way to keep a text conversation on track and not get sidetracked by a smart ass remark or barb.

2.) The Baby Maker

Honestly, one of the best texts of all time–especially when it comes to getting girls to de-flake. This text has it all: brevity, humor, role-playing, and a sexual undertone. This is the sort of text that won’t just get a response…it’ll get girls to stop in their tracks and be like, “WTF…who IS this guy?!” Highly recommend for any girl, in any situation.

1.) The B.S.-proof Match Maker

Finally, this brings us to the best text of all time…which, incidentally, is the simplest text of all time: “Drinks? Later?” Let me reiterate: texting is only a means to get a meet-up or date. Sure, the texts above may be funnier, wittier, or more elaborate than 2 simple words; but it doesn’t mean those texts are better.

There’s no such thing as “great text game” since the only purpose of text is to meet up with a girl. I usually start with “Drinks? Later?” and ONLY get creative if that doesn’t work. If 2 simple words are all you need to get a girl out, you know why this is the best text of all time. Otherwise, feel free to use some Text Flirting to “get her in the mood!”

And so there you have it: The 10 Best Texts to Send Hot Girls…OF ALL TIME!

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